im a working mother...
it’s time to get real. i’m a working mum. if i had two million dollars in the bank then perhaps i would be afforded the luxury of not having to work. perhaps i wouldn’t. but like most, we have a mortgage, we are renovating our house and are trying to make kurt’s fifo schedule and my career (which, as you know - requires vast amounts of both domestic and international travel) work while juggling a beautiful baby girl.
but whats baffling me at the moment and something i want to address is - as a youngish mum (i’ll be 32 in september) is the stigma and judgement i’ve received from mothers, both older than me and some similar in age - about me returning to work with a bub so young.
now it’s certainly an interesting one to tackle and one that i choose to respond to case by case. i usually smile and to some i simply say, you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do... of course i’d love to stay at home and play all day and go to mother’s groups and play dates. but that’s just not my reality.
to others that are a bit more understanding, i can be honest and say, unfortunately i don’t have the luxury of staying at home given the nature of a high pressure career. but in my head i flounder because, i don’t know how sane i would be if i did stay at home all day doing the baby thing. some days i love being a working mum, other days i’m in tears not wanting to leave.
i have an amazingly inspiring and dedicated mother who worked throughout all three of her pregnancies and pretty much went back to work straight after giving birth and i for one, don’t think i am any worse off because of it.
on my particular job front, i am fortunate that i am able to do a bulk of work from home however when peaches was six weeks old, i returned to work two days per week and left her in the capable care of a nanny in our own home.
we are routine based parents. that works for us. i couldn’t do what i do without peaches taking both formula and breast milk, boob and bottle. i also couldn’t do what i do without an amazing husband who loves our little bub as much as i do and can step up to the plate just as i do when he works away two weeks out of the month.
i’m recently returned from in europe where a hectic work schedule same in eight countries over 12 days. adding to this schedule was the fact that i wasn’t ready to give up breast feeding, so expressed whilst away - which was #nextlevel. i’ve expressed on aeroplanes, in starbucks bathrooms and in boardrooms - all in the name of wanting to get home to my baby and get back to normality.
i just wanted to get this down on paper as we all have our own opinions of what makes a good mother. don’t judge others. what works for them, may not work for you and vice versa. us mums have to stick together regardless of the situation. support one another and don’t judge ones journey into motherhood, even if it differs to your own.